hey all im trying to backup a copy of willow i now how to shrink disks and all that or backup just the movie but what im trying to acomplish is backing up the movie the menu setup and sene selection basicly backup what i wanna save on the disk

DVD ReBuilder Pro has an option to do Movie + Menu only.

is there any program to save what you want and get rid of what you dont want?

Most transcoders have some type of functionality for stripping what you don't want from a dvd while retaining the menus. If you want to use third party programs, check out Vob Blanker or DRM (links are in my signature).