I have two logs.. this is the one that said "crash"

10/21/2007 6:41:47 PM error Can't write: Size of scanned files is too big for that kind of media
10/21/2007 6:41:47 PM info Scanned files #11, folder #2 - total size 6096236544 b. (5.68 Gb.)
10/21/2007 6:41:47 PM info Inserted media type : DVD-R
10/21/2007 6:41:47 PM info Write started
10/21/2007 6:41:43 PM info New media inserted. Burning layer is ready to write
10/21/2007 6:41:27 PM info Media removed. Burning layer not ready to write
10/21/2007 6:41:03 PM error Can't write: Size of scanned files is too big for that kind of media
10/21/2007 6:41:03 PM info Scanned files #11, folder #2 - total size 6096236544 b. (5.68 Gb.)
10/21/2007 6:41:03 PM info Inserted media type : DVD-R
10/21/2007 6:41:03 PM info Write started
10/21/2007 6:41:01 PM info New media inserted. Burning layer is ready to write
10/21/2007 6:41:00 PM info Compatible media types : DVD-R, DVD-RW Seq., DVD-RW RO, DVD+R, DVD+RW, CD-R, CD-RW, DL DVD+R
10/21/2007 6:41:00 PM info New Drive selected : 0:1:0 - _NEC DVD+-RW ND-6500A 203E [D] (Ide)
10/21/2007 6:40:23 PM info New media inserted. Burning layer is ready to write
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info Current Drive selected : 0:1:0 - _NEC DVD+-RW ND-6500A 203E [D] (Ide)
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info Using Patin-Couffin driver Version 1.37, Internal revision 37 - Async. Access mode
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info User default language : 1033 (0x0409h) - English (United States)
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info System default language : 1033 (0x0409h) - English (United States)
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info DLL Version 2.1.3.324
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info DLL C:\Program Files\DVDFab Platinum 3\vso_hwe.dll
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info Version 3, 2, 1, 0
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info ExeName : "C:\Program Files\DVDFab Platinum 3\DVDFabPlatinum.exe"
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info OS : Microsoft Windows XP Professional Service Pack 2 (Build 2600)
10/21/2007 6:40:21 PM info ******************** Report session started ********************

This is the one that didn't say crash:

10/21/2007 6:39:33 PM info ******************** Report session closed *********************
10/21/2007 6:39:14 PM info Compatible media types : DVD-R, DVD-RW Seq., DVD-RW RO, DVD+R, DVD+RW, CD-R, CD-RW, DL DVD+R
10/21/2007 6:39:14 PM info New Drive selected : 0:1:0 - _NEC DVD+-RW ND-6500A 203E [D] (Ide)
10/21/2007 6:13:11 PM info Media removed. Burning layer not ready to write
10/21/2007 6:12:30 PM info New media inserted. Burning layer is ready to write
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info Current Drive selected : 0:1:0 - _NEC DVD+-RW ND-6500A 203E [D] (Ide)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info Using Patin-Couffin driver Version 1.37, Internal revision 37 - Async. Access mode
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info User default language : 1033 (0x0409h) - English (United States)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info System default language : 1033 (0x0409h) - English (United States)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info DLL Version 2.1.3.324
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info DLL C:\Program Files\DVDFab Platinum 3\vso_hwe.dll
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info Version 3, 2, 1, 0
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info ExeName : "C:\Program Files\DVDFab Platinum 3\DVDFabPlatinum.exe"
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info OS : Microsoft Windows XP Professional Service Pack 2 (Build 2600)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info ******************** Report session started ********************


10/21/2007 6:39:14 PM info Compatible media types : DVD-R, DVD-RW Seq., DVD-RW RO, DVD+R, DVD+RW, CD-R, CD-RW, DL DVD+R
10/21/2007 6:39:14 PM info New Drive selected : 0:1:0 - _NEC DVD+-RW ND-6500A 203E [D] (Ide)
10/21/2007 6:13:11 PM info Media removed. Burning layer not ready to write
10/21/2007 6:12:30 PM info New media inserted. Burning layer is ready to write
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info Current Drive selected : 0:1:0 - _NEC DVD+-RW ND-6500A 203E [D] (Ide)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info Using Patin-Couffin driver Version 1.37, Internal revision 37 - Async. Access mode
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info User default language : 1033 (0x0409h) - English (United States)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info System default language : 1033 (0x0409h) - English (United States)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info DLL Version 2.1.3.324
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info DLL C:\Program Files\DVDFab Platinum 3\vso_hwe.dll
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info Version 3, 2, 1, 0
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info ExeName : "C:\Program Files\DVDFab Platinum 3\DVDFabPlatinum.exe"
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info OS : Microsoft Windows XP Professional Service Pack 2 (Build 2600)
10/21/2007 6:12:28 PM info ******************** Report session started ********************


So sorry this post is so long.. looking at the log what you said is correct, that the file size is too big for the disc. There is an option in the program (which I'm sure you know about you seem very smart) for DVD 9 (100% quality) or DVD5 (70something% quality)
I haven't tried it on DVD5, would that make any difference, and is the quality difference noticible? or is it possible to break the movie into two discs? Two discs would be inconvenient but if thats what I have to do with these discs until we buy more thats what I can do. Which is best? Thank you SO very much for your help, you are awesome! and THANK YOU for the quick reply as well.