"but the young girl didn't recognize her father's formal first name"
To be honest then you need to ask, whos fault is it that this happened?, the police or the girls. At 12 years old you should know your own fathers fist name, and if not, it would most likely also be her second name.
To be honest if I had been dumb and died in a drink drive crash I would not want my kids to make my mistake, so yes I would wish them to see the pictures of my body.
Ben
